An imperfect guide to happiness

 Cut to the chase. No petty introductions as this is already gonna be too long. Let's try to talk about things that could make us happy. A relatively easy, one-day exercise for happiness.(Not really, and possibly with lots of flaws. But hey! It works for me!) 

3, 2, 1... GO!

As you wake up, tell yourself that "Nothing is gonna bother me today!" And you smile. No matter how fake it is, smile. 

Be helpful that day. Do things that will make people near you happy. Be kind. Be with people you love. Talk with old friends. Talk about old stories, happiness and memories. But being too much of a yes man and giving too much time to others, one might feel like s/he has no time to give for themselves. And that's miserable.  Give time to think about yourself too. Try to find a balance. Do things that make you happy. Eat your favourite food. Go pay a visit to your favourite place. Listen to your favourite songs. All these basic things everyone tells you to do. Now here's my actual proposal (but seriously dude! Do the things said above too. It wil give you a lot of peace. Those are the things to do in action and now are the things to do on thoughts). 

Think less. The problems aren't as big in real as you think is in your head. Don't you sometimes think stupid people are lot happier than knowledgeable ones? They say poor are happier than the rich. The lesser we have, lesser we have to lose and happier we are, lesser we know, simpler will be our worries, and lesser we think, less troublesome are our troubles. No offence, but look at the children. Those silly naive clumsy half-humans. They seem pretty happy all the time don't they? Why? 

Take the time to reflect upon yourself as well. We are not perfect are we? And we shouldn't be chasing around to be perfect neither. Accept your flaws for a day. Accept everything that you think are imperfect about you. I read a book which said, "Even greatest of the kings and emperors sit on their thrones resting their whole body in none other than their own arse. The mightiest of the heroes, and the most beautiful of the ladies also shit. It's but natural. What are we to be ashamed of? We are all but imperfect humans"(well not exact line to line but the zest was the same). Right? We aren't perfect! We aren't supposed to be. Nobody is perfect actually. So why chase it?

And if you feel like you are not good enough, or are inferior than others or not deserving, try to change your perspective. This won't work in just a day but come on! Think about it! Why should we comoarig ourselves with the others for things we are bad at and they are good at? We are good at entirely different things too. If you don't know what it is, reflect upon it and give yourself the time to find it out. And hone it. Hone it up so well, show it off so nicely that they will get jealous. Might be a little egoistic but sometimes a little bit of ego might just be the thing we need right now. Embrace yourself and forgive yourself for a day.  Forgive everyone. For their flaws, their wrong doings, their superiority, their insolence for they aren't perfect neither. You can call me stupid but I think you don't forgive or forget. Wise people ignore. They have better things to do. Holding on to poison will let nothing but necrotize your own flesh.

And do we ever feel like we are the ones who is poisoning, own it up too. Accept it. Sometimes we tend to become so toxic, everything seems to be melting out your own hands due to the acid of our own toxicity, it feels almost helpless. You dont know what to do about it yourself? I think the best thing you could do is to Accept it. You've realised that you've become toxic right? If that thought is gonna eat you up anyways, just apologize to the person you felt like you became toxic to. "Heyy I'm sorry I feel like I did you wrong back then. I am not feeling happy about it. Please forgive me if I hurt you in any way before. I'm sorry keeping this with myself would just eat me up even more."

If they do judge you after that, that's not actually your fault. You wouldn't have to ruin your mood for that thing, as long as you actually feel sorry for it and want to grow from it that is. In most cases, other people don't even keep anything in their mind about what we did or said, it was nothing for them... Most of the times we don't matter to others as much as we think we do. Everyone has their own shit to deal with. But yet, it would still be actively eating us up inside. If talking about that thing with them would not make them any more/less angrier.. but would help you ease yourself up.. why not talk about it and embarass ourselves for a few minutes? 

I don't like living my life with regrets. That's the only obstruction in me.  Regrets and remorses are I think, a big reason to keep a person occupied and surrounded by negative emotions. If you can do anything that will leave you with lesser to none of regrets, I think you should do just that.  "Will I regret it if I do this or if I don't do this?" If the answer is yes, then I will do the thing that won't leave me in regret. No matter how impossible or silly or embarassing it sounds I would still choose and accept the supposed embarassment than having to live with regret for not doing so. Because at the end of the day the person who completely cares about what piyush did and where piyush fucked up is just piyush himself. I'd rather think about peace of piyush rather than judgement of others. Don't keep regrets. we shall learn to be happy slowly then I guess. 

And if you want to prevent anything else from taking you into sorrow or anger or remorse, I think we could learn to be a little pessimistic. Think about it. Why do you feel unhappy? Or angry? Or betrayed? Or under accomplished? Isn't it because our expectations didn't meet? Try and make yourself prepared for the wrong things that could happen today. Lower your expectations. You could be late for work today, you could be scolded by your superior, you could miss your breakfast, your annoying friend is not gonna suddenly turn into a super nice guy today, you are gonna get tons of homeworks/projects, he or she might not talk to you today, your date could get cancelled, you might fail that test, your friend might not return the money you lent, you might get hit by a truck. ( Okay, thinking about getting hit by a truck is too pessimistic or maybe even masochistic? Don't think about it. But you get the point) This way, you will me more prepared and less emotionally drawn aback if anything like that is supposed to happen. 

This one day of positiveness could act as a key ko continue keeping the positivity going for the coming days too. Keep this exercise gor just one day because short time rewards gives you motivation rather than long time expectations.  If you sucessfully remain happy, the days ahead could follow as well.

Or the key could break as well. Depends upon ourselves maybe. Upon how we take the concept of happiness is. Tell me. What does happiness mean to you? I know it's rather subjective, but are you gonna be happy?